When I reach the third mile of a run, that’s when it happens. My body hits another gear. Thoughts are clearer and emotions are muted. Time clicks away with serenity. Running becomes something more than just exercise. It’s a space for reflection, dreams, and determination.
Three years ago, after I quit my job at Oregon State University, I decided to go for a run. I mapped out a 3 mile course, put on my sneakers, and trotted out the door. So many of my friends had told me about how much they loved to run. I figured, how hard can it be? The first mile was extremely difficult. My lungs were on fire and my legs were already fatigued. I ended up walking the remaining 2 miles back to my apartment. I was not a runner. But I am fairly stubborn. Determined to try running again, I went out to do the same 3 mile loop after giving my legs a couple of days rest. Again, it was so hard. My lungs rebelled and my legs were sore. But I made it a little bit further before I had to start walking. There was a glimmer of progress.
Growing up in Iowa and doing a lot of manual labor instilled a work ethic inside of me that still prevails to this day. Knowing that sometimes it takes a lot of hard work for incremental gain, I attempted to rationalize that running might be hell now, but it could be good if I kept working. A month went by and I was able to slowly run for 3 miles without stopping. It was a lot of work. There was a lot of heavy breathing and self-doubt. I wasn’t a runner yet, but I was trying.
When I moved to Boston in 2011, I got into a regular groove of running. From three miles to five and then finally I made it to eight miles per run. It was something that I never expected to be able to do. No one in my family ran for exercise. In fact, my mom always told me that running was akin to a four-letter swear word. We didn’t run. And then I found myself piling on the miles. Sharing stories with other runners and actually understanding why they, why we did it. Sure, it was about fitness and exercise, but it has always been about something else.
When Pinterest first became popular, I wasn’t very interested. It wasn’t that interesting to me. Recently, I’ve been heading over to Pinterest on a regular basis. Curating interesting things on the web, sharing with friends, and finding wonderful pins/boards from within my network and beyond.
My boards are a mix of my interests: music, art, thoughts, ink, joy, and a list that helps me remember all of the things. Pinterest is about our personal aesthetic. Sure, it’s dominated by DIY, fashion, recipes, fitness tips, and quotes, but that’s the cool thing about it. I totally dig learning more about what my friends think is fashionable or a new way to fix something. The randomness of curation due to a diverse network makes for a great space for learning, sharing, and just letting my mind wander.
Some thoughts that popped into my head while out running today…
Radical love is patient. Radical love is as comfortable with silence as it is with conversation. Radical love is not the mad crazy feelings that accompany the newness of being in love with someone. Radical love is lasting. Radical love listens. Radical love learns. Radical love is about moments where sparks fly. Radical love is okay with distance. Radical love is strengthened by giving space. Radical love is about memories. Radical love is about being present. Radical love covers all of the emotions. Radical love recognizes the intensity of emotion and stops it from burning too brightly. Radical love is about sincere apologies. Radical love is full of hope. Radical love is the journey that fills your heart. Radical love is not easy. Radical love is worth every leap, every mistake, every ache, and every smile. Radical love is why life is lovely.
I started 2013 off with a digital identity talk at Curry College for their Career Services Conference for Seniors. They were an awesome group! I’ve included the video of my talk, my slides, and a Storify from the event:
My blog has been my living room on the web for quite some time. However, since beginning my consulting adventures in 2010, the blog has shifted into being more about my business than about the random collection of interests that I used to write about. I think this site needs to go back to where it used to be. A collection of images, thoughts, sounds, feelings, critiques, hopes, ideas…not always connected with my work, but always connected to my heart.
I’ve lived in Boston since the summer of 2011. It’s been my home for almost two years. Boston is an awesome city. I love its people, places, sights, and sounds.
When news broke (via Twitter) that bombs had gone off at the Boston Marathon, my heart sank. I was sitting in a coffee shop. Out of state, but not out of touch. I felt an adrenaline rush go through my body. The kind of rush that happens when you first find out that something awful has happened and you want to help, to assist, to be there for those in need.
Knowing that several of my friends were most-likely going to be watching the race, I immediately started checking Facebook and Twitter for posts/tweets. Several of my friends had already checked-in to let people know that they were okay.
This past Monday in Boston was a horrible day for so many people. Lives were lost. Lives will be forever affected.
Boston is a great city. Its people are resilient. It’s a city that is made stronger by the acts of caring and courage that took place on Monday. I’m still out of town for another week or so and my heart is heavy. I’m still processing. Still working my way through intense emotion. Empathy reigns.
The people of Boston are showing the best parts of their spirit this week: hope, love, kindness, and strength.
Dear Boston, you are in my thoughts.
Part of the experience of being a keynote speaker at the Jon C. Dalton Institute on College Student Values is that you get to do an interview with the Character Clearinghouse at Florida State University. The questions from Pamela Crosby, the editor of the site (as well as the Journal of College and Character), were stellar. Here’s an excerpt:
Why should students care about their digital identity?
Students should care about their digital identity for a variety of reasons. As members of a campus community, it is important for students to know that their online actions can have impact. Student Conduct offices are no longer just concerned with what happens in the brick-and-mortar campus spaces. Additionally, most students are pursuing future careers, and higher education is their launch pad. Social media posts can show up in search engine queries. Companies are no longer just looking at your resume. They want to know what you are doing (and saying) online too. Now, that’s more of the punitive side of things. Digital identity is about much more than just worrying about its effects on future employment or conduct violations. Students with a fluent grasp of social media can accelerate their learning, develop meaningful connections with peers, and grow their professional network. What we do online can affect our face-to-face interactions…and vice versa.
Why should higher education be concerned about students’ digital identity?
I think that when the original work on “digital natives” and “digital immigrants” first became popular, it caused an educational disconnect. Administrators and staff at institutions seemingly (without a lot of critical discourse) bought the rhetoric that students were digitally savvy. In fact, students are no better at creating and cultivating their digital identity than anyone else. We’re all digital students in the sense that we are constantly learning how to use the social tools while they are constantly evolving. Schools need to be intentional about how they incorporate digital identity development into their educational constructs. Social media are not a trend or a fad that are going to someday evaporate. We need to be proactive with teaching our students how to build their digital identity versus being reactive whenever they post something that we wish hadn’t made it onto the web. Like anything in education, critical conversations about digital identity are essential. It’s like that movie, “The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly,” we have to jump in, create our own digital identity, and educate our students too.
Read the rest of the interview at the Character Clearinghouse site.
His name is Justin Bieber…and I am a fan of his music.
Bieber is talented. He’s also 18. What was your world like when you were 18? I bet it didn’t involve performing in front of thousands of screaming fans, riding around in private jets, and being endlessly covered by the media. Bieber sings, dances, and plays at least two instruments (drums and guitar). Can you do that? I know that I can’t. Bieber was the kid from Canada who posted some videos on YouTube and then was “discovered” by Usher. Okay, that story sounds a bit too polished for me, but the stratospheric rise of the Biebs has been impressive.
When Bieber’s acoustic album came out, I downloaded a couple tracks, and found them to be just as enjoyable as his other jams. I posted on Facebook that “acoustic Bieber is just as good as non-acoustic Bieber.” Several people took my comment to mean that I didn’t like his music. Not true…I’m a fan. Talent is talent. Bieber has it. I love pop music. Sometimes we just need to take a pint of musical ice-cream out of the fridge and dive into it with a spoon. Pop music is about enjoyment. It’s not going to stand up to critical review in the same way that other forms of music do. With Bieber, what’s the point of “hating on” his music? His songs are catchy. He’s maturing right in front of us. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to form an identity in the fish bowl environment that he resides. His world is about having access to everything. Unfettered access to all sorts of good, bad, and ugly. At eighteen! I’m sure his handlers do their best to provide limits as best as they can, but c’mon… It’s a setup. We wring the talent out of someone like Bieber. There are individuals and organizations that make tremendous amounts of money off of his talent. Success has its expense.
For me, it’s not about whether or not Justin Bieber enjoys the same sort of career longevity as other musicians/performers. Enjoy his music. Stop hating. What kind of world do we live in where people hate on a kid because they don’t like the persona that the media presents? In many ways, what we know and see of Bieber is manufactured. I can’t imagine the pressures that that must exert on someone. To be something on stage, and in the studio, while trying to figure out what it means to be someone….at eighteen. Keep singing Bieber.
In my attempt to be connected to all things related to higher education, I did something that has had interesting ramifications. One day while perusing Facebook, I liked the University of Phoenix page. I figured that it would nice to see what they were up to and didn’t think twice about it.
Well, always remember that what you do on Facebook can come back to you. Seth Odell, a good friend and interactive marketer for Southern New Hampshire University, sent me a text message today. He asked why I was supporting “team Phoenix.” Little did I know that Phoenix has been running a sponsored ad campaign that shows my “like” of their Facebook page on my friend’s feed. Now, it could just be as simple as Phoenix showing my Facebook connections that I liked their page, or I wonder if Phoenix is using my brand without my permission. I write for Inside Higher Ed and do a fair amount of speaking and consulting within higher education. If that’s the case, I’m not a fan of how that looks or feels. It’s a good reminder that liking something on Facebook can be used by advertisers to promote their brand. While this certainly isn’t a new phenomenon, it is the first time that I’ve had to think about my personal brand in this particular context.
If you’re ever in need of a quick and easy way to visualize the growth of your followers on Twitter, look no further than the Wildfire Social Media Monitor. While your total number of followers on Twitter is really more of a vanity metric, the Wildfire tool is a great way to see if certain accounts have been artificially increasing their following.
According to the graph, on April 28th, 2010, I had 1,586 followers on Twitter. Whenever a client asks me to help them grow their followers on Twitter, I usually talk about providing quality content and engaging with their audience…over time, your follower count will grow on its own.